Just who are you listening to these days and why? If you have set a goal for yourself, are you sabotaging your chances of success by listening to the wrong people’s comments and thoughts?
Outside influences such as family, friends, mentors, and even collective consciousness (the masses) have a tremendous amount of influence on how successful you will be in making a positive change in your life.
In a previous article, I talked about mentally beating yourself up. In addition to dealing with your own thoughts, there are other outside influences that can become factors in how successful you will be in achieving a goal you have set for yourself.
It has been said that you are the average of the five closest people in your life, including thoughts, behaviors, and income. Think of the five closest people in your life. Do they or would they support you in making a positive change for the better?
Your Well-Meaning Family
Sometimes family members are very supportive of your desires and efforts and often times they are not. If some of your family members are not supportive to your new goals and dreams, realize that it is their issue and not yours.
Rather than concern yourself with their comments and reactions to your new goals, practice forgiveness and compassionate understanding instead. Everyone is exactly where they are supposed to be at that moment. There is a wonderful release that comes with accepting that which you cannot change.
Friends Who Know What Is Best For You
Many times friends will not want you to change because they have a fear of losing you as a friend if you change too much. The truth is that is entirely possible. Friends who do not have the same aspirations and goals as you do will tend to fade out of your life. The good news is that they will be replaced by other friends that are a vibrational match for the support needed to achieve your goals.
What is running through your head that was placed there by relatives that have since passed away? Did your Grandparents always tell you a certain “truth” that you believed because it it came from a trusted relative? I have been working on clearing out a few of those thoughts recently. It is amazing what can stick in your head long after someone has passed on.
I certainly mean no ill to those that have passed, but just examine some of the beliefs you have and their origins. Once you realize the source, decide if those beliefs still serve you in a positive way. Let go of the beliefs that do not serve you anymore.
Who Should You Be Listening To?
By surrounding yourself with those who already have what you want and are congruent with your goals you stand a much better chance of reaching the goals you have set for yourself.
Napoleon Hill called it a Mastermind group. I like to think of them as Mentors, Resources, and Allies. You need a group of 4-7 of great positive people that have already achieved what you want that you can look to for inspiration, ideas, and direction.
Just be sure to choose a mentor that has really achieved what you want to accomplish. Have they really lived it? A mentor can come from reading books and biographies as well.