Being Realistic – The Ultimate Dream Crusher
How many times have you been told you are not being realistic about your dreams and goals? If your answer is too many times, keep reading to find out how to keep your dreams from being crushed.
Sometimes when we are excited about the prospect of bringing something new into our lives, we want to share it with those we love and trust.
After all, you think and expect that they will be excited for us wanting to do something bigger than we have allowed ourselves to do so far.
But what happens when instead of having that unconditional support of someone we look up to we are greeted by the dream-crushing words that you need to be more realistic in what you are asking for? Exactly who are you listening to?
The Best Of Intentions
Have you been told by someone you look up to that you are not being realistic about what you want to accomplish? You might have had an intuitive download in answer to something you wanted to change in your life. You share that with a spouse, parent, or other loved one with the expectation that they will support you and cheer you on.
The words come and they are different than what you expected. Even though someone may have the best of intentions in their response, the words say your dreams are too big, your goals are too big, or you are asking for too much.
You may feel like someone took a pin and popped your big balloon of ideas. The air in your dreams seeps out and you are left with nothing more than an empty shell of your original idea.
Because you may look up to this person, you believe them. You buy into it. You allow the deflation of your dreams, allow yourself to buy into what you have been told, and allow yourself to continue with your daily life, unchanged.
This leads to feelings of resentment, anger, and a lot of frustration when you stuff your dreams back into the closet.
Your Own Worst Enemy
Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy when we allow our own fears to get the best of us. We talk ourselves out of something that we know would help us get closer to our goals and dreams. You might back out of a program, thinking your intuition is telling you that the program is for someone else. All this leads to is distrust of our own capabilities and causes us to question our intuitive hits.
It turns into a circular pattern; in which your dreams, hopes, and goals are stunted. This leads to frustration, thinking we have to settle for less than we are worth, and allows our fears to grow to the point where we end up feeling stuck.
How Being Realistic Can Crush Your Dreams
Being realistic means that we are buying into the thought process of “who am I to think this big?”, and is one way we give away our power. We allow some thought or voice from the outside to dictate our actions or lack of action.
Logic kicks in and we begin to tell ourselves the other person is right and our business idea is too big. The idea starts to shrink into something “realistic” that we think we can handle. The best parts of your big idea get left on the cutting room floor.
When we have made little progress in accomplishing what we want, the original vision can get whittled away one piece at a time.
How To Keep Your Big Dreams In Place
- Be discerning and careful about who you trust to share your dreams, hopes, and goals with. You may find yourself keeping your best ideas to yourself where they can grow and flourish.
- Share later. Act first on your dreams; then share. Take actions now that will further your big idea and then tell about your accomplishments. Nothing beats results.
- Trust your intuition. Know that the idea you received was for you because you have the capability and knowledge to make it happen.
- Make new friends. Surround yourself with positive minded people that want you to succeed and will help you to grow. Seek out people on-line or outside your immediate circle of friends that will support you and give you the encouragement you need to make your dreams a reality.
- Follow your intuitive nudges. Take action right away. Do it now. You will continue to amaze yourself in what you can accomplish and bring to the world.
Have you ever had a great idea that you knew was just for you but allowed yourself to get talked out of pursuing it? How did you overcome someone telling you that your goal was too big? I would love it if you would share in the comments below.