How to know if you’ve lost your passion. Can your passion die or fade away? Can what you thought was your dream just vanish from your life? Find out if it is just frustration or something more.
Something a client asked me a while ago is still sticking with me and I thought I would share my response. She asked me if your passion could actually die.
Sometimes when we have been in “seeker” mode for months or years, it can feel so frustrating that our dreams have not yet fully materialized. You can even go so far as to blow a gasket and announce to the world you are giving up on your lifelong dreams. Sometimes this is useful to wipe the slate clean and look at where you are right now. By doing so, you can begin to clarify what still needs to be a part of your life and what needs to change.
So, basically the question is when is it just frustration showing up that something isn’t happening in the time frame we expected and when is is something more? Well, there are a couple of things that can be going on.
Here are a few things to ask yourself:
Are your Dreams Big Enough?
You might think bringing your soul level gifts to the world looks like doing 1:1 coaching or a small group. What if that seems to fall flat? What if your true passion is speaking on stage to a group of a thousand people? While that may seem frightening at first, if you don’t allow yourself to acknowledge that something bigger excites you, you can find yourself playing it safe.
You may have taken steps in the right direction, but have you allowed yourself to see ALL of what is possible for you? So, are there any areas in your life you can think of where you need to dream bigger? Sometimes you actually need to allow those big, seemingly unreachable dreams to be a part of the plan.
By dreaming bigger, you end up taking larger steps towards your goals. This is one way you can catapult yourself over hurdles that might otherwise keep you playing it safe.
Have You Lost Your Passion?
This one goes right along with the first question of whether or not your dreams are big enough. There seem to be points in time when what we used to be passionate about has taken a back seat or faded away from our awareness. One thing that can happen is we have done so much spiritual healing and self improvement work on ourselves, that we have actually shifted enough where our passions have changed.
You might have been passionate about a certain hobby or line of work for many years and now it fails to hold your interest. So, take a look at any areas of your life where you may not feel the zest anymore and ask yourself if you have outgrown a particular passion or dream.
If so, what has replaced it? Sometimes just the conscious acknowledgement of this is enough to be okay with letting something go. When you do, you can fully step into what does make you happy right now.
What are you Saying “Yes” to Every Day?
Sometimes our passion can seem to elude us because of what we say yes to every single day. We say yes and agree to so many things, it just becomes part of daily life. Because of that, you might find yourself without any extra time to even think about doing something else that makes your soul sing.
We say yes to coffee time, Facebook, an hour long commute to work, making our children’s lunch when they could do it themselves and a host of other daily activities. We say yes to things that keep us busy, worrying, and anxious. Pay attention and start writing down all of your daily activities.
That list is what you say yes to every day. Start questioning everything on that list. Is it necessary? Is is productive? Is there anything that is being done or not done out of complacency or laziness? Do all of those activities make you excited and happy? If so, great! If not, start questioning the activities. What could you change to make time to find or explore your passion further? What would have to change in order for that time to become available to you?
There are times in your life when you need to re-think and re-focus your goals. What once may have been juicy and exciting may now be old hat and fail to excite you. By doing a bit of self-study, you can reaffirm and clarify what you need and want right now. Your passion is still there…it just may have changed shape, scope, and focus. Have you really lost your passion or is it time to change scope?