Your words have the power to heal and the power to hurt someone close to you. Words also have the power to shape new beliefs, for better or for worse.
My Rather Odd Shopping Experience
Yesterday I was shopping at one of my favorite department stores. I had finished returning a few pairs of jeans for my son that didn't fit and was heading over to the boy's section to look for some other options. I walked past the boy's shoe area and thought I would take a look at what was there.
It is interesting that I even looked at the shoes, because I was just there a week earlier buying a pair of shoes with my son. I took a few steps in to look at what was on sale. There was another couple (mom and dad) about an isle over.
I then heard the following:
"YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THIS...YOU WILL NOT BE GETTING THOSE NIKES!"
I can't do what I heard any good justice in writing as the emotion, anger, and frustration that accompanied those words was something I don't think I could properly duplicate. It came from the mom nearby. I will say the energy of her words resonated about 10-15 feet around her.
I silently backed out of the isle, back to the main walk isle. I knew I wanted to see who she was talking to. I rounded the corner and looked over.
There was a thin young boy, maybe 5-6 standing there, paralyzed in the middle of the shoe isle. To say he was crestfallen was a severe understatement. Devastated is closer to describing the look on his face.
He was close enough to the shoes he truly wanted that he could reach out and touch the shoe box. But he didn't move. He was paralyzed.
My heart felt like someone had cut through it with a knife. My heart went out to him. My jaw dropped open and my hand involuntarily went to cover my mouth. I almost couldn't believe what I had just heard. Did she realize what she just said? Did she realize what just happened? I wanted him so much to have those shoes. They were what he truly wanted and he was told he could in no way have them.
Did I just witness a new belief being formed?
Considering the energies of this situation, I believe I did witness a new belief being formed for that young boy. Will he now believe he cannot have what he truly wants? The possibility exists. In the time of about 2-3 seconds a new belief was more than likely formed. Will that belief serve him in a positive way? Who knows?
I truly hope the parents realized I had overheard the conversation. Perhaps it will be a wake-up call. I kept walking and finished my shopping. After going back to my car, I just sat there for about 15 minutes before driving on. I went over in my head about 15 different ways that situation could have had a better outcome. I felt an incredible sadness for that young boy.
As an adult, we can brush some of this stuff off, but a young child is fully reliant on a parent for everything, including beliefs.
The True Power of Your Words
Please, please, please understand the power of your words. Understand just how quickly a new belief can be formed, especially with a young child.
When you are tired, stressed out, and cranky, that is exactly the time to be conscious of what you say to others. It matters. It matters a lot.